Lemonade From Lemons
Life throws us many unexpected curve balls that makes one wonder what we should do. Swing at that ball or take the strike? I’m not sure some days. It seems as though some of us never catch a break. It’s overwhelming and frustrating. Makes you want to hide in a corner and cry. Unfortunately, that doesn’t solve the problem. You have to swing at the issue with everything you have and hope for the home run.
Recently, I was asked how I would turn lemons into lemonade when dealing with a difficult person. As usual, my response was one nobody expected to roll off of my tongue. Including me. I answered with, I’d throw a cup of sugar at them and then punch them in the face. I was only being honest. Of course, everyone cracked up over my usual sarcasm but when I stepped back and thought about what I said, it was a brutally, dead on, honest answer. When we get backed into a corner and go into fight or flight mode, we cave in or fight. There is no grey area for most of us.
For several years now, I have been in the corner, wanting to run away from life. I bounce between being okay and not being able to function. Sometimes multiple times in one day. I know many people struggle with the same problem. The question is, what are we supposed to do versus what do we want to do about it? That my friends, is where the the whole grey to black area appears. Even the most “normal” people get stuck here at some point. Nobody is immuned to this, regardless of the feeling that we are all alone.
We’re taught that we have to appear certain ways, do what society dictates and keep up with the Jones family. We’re not supposed to talk about certain taboos, the lgbtq community, domestic violence, mental health issues or marital problems. We’re expected to hide those kind of things and put on that “everything is great” face all of the time. I can’t. I wear many masks on any given day and I am good with that. I’m not afraid to speak out or up regarding the things society wants us to hide. That isn’t my reality along with thousands of other people. I keep it real. I say what I think and mean what I say most of the time. We should all be that way. Plain and simple. However, society doesn’t allow that in the rules so, most of us blindly follow. It’s what we do.
Back to the question. What are we supposed to do in difficult situations when it feels like the world is caving in around us? Well, we’re supposed to put on that face and tackle the problem, then move on. What do we want to do? Ahhh, I know that in my case, I want to throw that cup of sugar, throw the punch and run like hell. I always plan on swinging for the curve ball, hoping for the homerun but, I end up taking the strike because I cave in. I don’t trust myself or anyone else, (including the universe, fate or luck) to take the chance of getting the run. Quite frankly, I would rather hide in the corner.
I always try to see the silver lining, making the winning point or battling head on and trusting myself to conquer anything. Instead, I throw the sugar, then the punch and run. So, the lemonade from lemons? It’s out there if we allow it in and take it for a test run. Some day, once again I will make the lemonade. Until then, I will try to accept myself and work on being the person who takes the swing.
I hope that each of you can do the same. We’re worth it. We deserve it and we are most certainly never alone. You are a an important puzzle piece that has it’s place in this beautiful masterpiece we call life. Never forget. ♥️
More Love. Less Hate. H